“The test of a first-rate intelligence is the ability to hold two opposed ideas in mind at the same time and still retain the ability to function.” — F. Scott Fitzgerald
As a grokkist, you know what it feels like to swing between confidence and doubt.
One moment, you feel strong and certain, and the next, uncertainty pulls you off balance, leaving you questioning everything. This tension can feel unsettling, but it’s not something to fix—it’s part of how you grow.
Like a pendulum, moving between opposites is what keeps you in motion, teaching you that strength lies in holding both sides.
Ambivalence—literally strength on both sides—isn’t about indecision; it’s the ability to live in that tension without rushing to resolve it.
Confidence and doubt can exist together, each offering their own kind of wisdom.
This mindset is more than merely a personal practice—it’s a way of being in the world. In times of uncertainty, when people are quick to seek simple answers, holding space for contradictions is an act of radical openness.
When people are quick to seek simple answers, holding space for contradictions is an act of radical openness.
It means being willing to suspend judgment, to sit with complexity, and to invite curiosity instead of rushing to be right.
Letting go of being right doesn’t mean giving up on ethics or staying silent in the face of wrongs. It’s about acknowledging that real solutions—whether personal or collective—aren’t born from certainty. They emerge from our willingness to stay curious, to explore, and to hold space for others to do the same.
As you learn to live with your own contradictions, you’ll find yourself more open to the contradictions in others, creating deeper connection and understanding.
Over time, the wild swings between confidence and doubt may soften, but the power of ambivalence remains.
This is what it means to grow as a grokkist—allowing contradictions to coexist, unlocking new possibilities within yourself, and helping others see that complexity isn’t a burden, but a path forward.
Where in my life do I feel both confident and uncertain at the same time?
How can I practice holding space for contradictions without rushing to resolve them?
In what ways can staying curious open up new possibilities for me and those around me?
How does embracing ambivalence help me connect more deeply with others?
Navigating the in-between
Listen to Lalith Gunaratne on the Still Curious podcast as he explores how embracing contradictions can foster a mindset of openness and growth. Lalith shares insights on how holding space for uncertainty—rather than seeking quick answers—can deepen our understanding of complex, wicked problems in today’s world.
Danu Poyner
Explore further
If the tension of holding multiple truths feels relevant to you, take a look at our video essay on Ethical Approaches to Discourse in Virtual Spaces. It explores how to navigate conflicting perspectives in online environments with care and ethical imagination. Just as Comfort in Contradiction encourages you to embrace complexity in yourself, this essay highlights how to bring that same openness and nuance into your interactions with others, especially in spaces where discourse can easily become polarised.
Nathan Dufour Oglesby